THE SOVEREIGN DROP 015 — On Leadership
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Field Note: On Leadership
Leadership is the process of influencing, motivating, and enabling others to contribute toward the success of a shared mission.
The word that matters most in that definition: Others.
No silo work.
No lone wolves.
No private empires.
Leadership only exists because there are people involved.
If you’re honest, people are the part of the equation you like the least.
Not because you dislike them as humans, but because they slow things down.
They misunderstand.
They need context.
They need repetition.
They need motivation.
They bring emotions, personalities, preferences, and limits into a system you wish could just run with ease.
Sometimes it feels like it would be easier without them.
And it would be.
But you’d also accomplish half as much.
High-responsibility men live with this tension:
People are both the friction and the force multiplier.
You can’t build anything meaningful without them.
And yet, they are rarely as driven or internally pressured as you are.
Leadership becomes a strange trade.
You used to love execution and were excellent at it.
You got satisfaction from doing the work yourself.
But as the vision grew, you had to step out of the task and into the role.
Others hold the execution post now.
You hold the vision, the strategy, and the weight.
Here’s where the frustration creeps in:
You spend enormous time refining systems, strategy, products, and operations…
but very little time refining your leadership.
You know just enough about each person to keep the train moving.
But not enough to truly lead them.
So when the stakes rise…
and the expectations increase…
and the pace accelerates…
They struggle to keep up.
And your patience runs thin.
You don’t want to slow down and sit in long conversations.
You don’t want to unpack motivations, personalities, or communication styles.
You want results.
But leadership is not the strategy.
It’s the relationship between you and the people executing the strategy.
And that part?
Is entirely your responsibility.
No one else’s.
It’s far more exciting to solve a supply chain issue than it is to sit down with Joe and ask why he missed his KPIs.
But the supply chain doesn’t build itself.
Joe does.
And leadership, by definition, is about people.
They are the ones who make your vision possible.
They are the ones who build the thing.
Deliver the service.
Move the project.
Carry the load.
They are not you.
They never will be.
Most of them are content to check off their tasks and go home.
They don’t feel the weight you feel and don’t see the risk you see.
They don’t wake up at 3 a.m. thinking about consequences or a missed opportunity.
Ironically, those very people—
the ones without your intensity—the ones you tolerate—
are the ones who will take you the distance.
If you learn how to lead them well.
Your speed is not determined by your vision.
It’s determined by your leadership.
Maybe it’s time to slow down just enough to move faster later.
Re-understand your team.
What’s happening in their lives.
What they care about.
What they need.
What motivates them.
What confuses them.
What frustrates them.
They will spend nearly a third of their waking lives working under your leadership.
Do humanity a favor and make that experience meaningful.
Any boss can create a tolerable environment.
You’re capable of far more than tolerable.
Question
Where is your frustration with your team actually a reflection of your leadership?
Integration
This week, pick one person on your team and slow down with them.
Not to correct them, evaluate them, or to push performance.
…To understand them.
Ask them meaningful questions: (Feel free to craft your own or borrow from below.)
What part of your work feels most confusing right now?
What part feels most meaningful?
What would help you perform at a higher level?
Then listen.
All the way through.
Leadership accelerates when understanding precedes expectation.
Benediction
People are not the obstacle to your vision.
They are the vehicle.
I believe in what you are becoming.
— Amy
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